Wednesday, February 5, 2014

180 Experiences That Will Strengthen Your Marriage

180 Experiences That Will Strengthen Your Marriage by Dustin A. Wiggins

A couple weeks ago, a genuinely nice, decent-sounding guy named Dustin Wiggins contacted me and asked me to review his book. I said I’d be happy to read and review 180 Experiences That Will Strengthen Your Marriage. I like marriage.

I have to admit that I found Wiggins’ self-help style book pretty sentimental. And I’m afraid that I’m a bit cynical, but that’s okay! We can meet in the middle.

The book is written for any couple wishing to invigorate or fortify their marriage, from carefree newlyweds to tired, middle-aged couples in need of fuel for the fire. The daily experiences are meant to be completed together, or at least reciprocally. The promised result is: “Upon completing the tasks in this book you will have developed a deeper love and appreciation for your spouse and you will have turned your marriage around 180 degrees.”

The tasks are to be completed in order and then documented on a blog. Finding 180 consecutive days with a period of time for each activity would certainly be challenging. For example, memorizing and reciting a poem, playing on a swingset, creating a time capsule and touring an orphanage are sweet ideas, but the realities of kids, work, and household chores may be a detriment. Maybe I’m just too practical.

I have to add that while visiting a prison to chat with a prisoner is a kind gesture, it makes for a pretty dismal-sounding date.

Some of the experience ideas that I love include: learning a new vocabulary word, doing 100 sit-ups (they can be spread out throughout the day – yesss!), memorizing a scripture, writing down and sharing five things you love about each other, gathering donations to deliver to a shelter, volunteering, and creating an activity jar.

The one-liners (or “positive affirmations”) at the bottom of each page create a theme for each experience idea. Like, “We understand each other” for the challenge to create a secret language.


I appreciate the super-wise counsel in the epilogue on how to avoid adultery. Wiggins is a thoughtful, talented writer with a passion for the sanctity of marriage. Three cheers for that!!

Monday, July 29, 2013

Markram Battles

Markram Battles by M.C. Muhlenkamp

My friend Melissa is about to publish part one of her brand-new collection of short stories. They'll be available on Amazon this week. I've had the privilege of reading them and they're graphic, otherworldly fun! To learn more about them, visit mcmuhlenkamp.com/markham-battles/

Here is the author's description:

Markram Battles is a serialized collection of short sci-fi stories. Life has changed. An alien race of evolved humans with supernatural abilities has taken over our planet, as the most recent annexation of their empire. Earth is now a sector where recruiters, also known as unit leaders, come to conscript female survivors into their combatant regimentsbattle divisions intended to fight and die in an arena for the entertainment of the masses. The rules of the Battles are simple. Fight. Win. Or die trying.

Seven, a unit leader trained in the Imperial Army with the sole purpose of fighting in the Battles, refuses to die in his pursuit of freedom. But when Thirteen, his new female recruit, defies the rules, she threatens to destroy everything he has worked so hard to achieve. Thirteen won’t give in. Not to him. Not to the system. Not to anyone. Except in order to live, she must. 

These are the stories of them who fight, without any possibility of escape.




Thursday, May 30, 2013

Easy Brownie-in-a-Mug recipe

I know, a recipe has nothing to do books (unless you read recipe books!), but I had to provide this recipe for a link.

This is my recipe tweak, and I couldn't find anything similar online, so here goes. This is super easy, quick, low-fat, and heavenly for anyone with a hankering for chocolate.

3/4 cup brownie mix from box (I use Betty Crocker or Pillsbury)
3 T water
1 T applesauce (or vegetable oil if you desire the more fattening version)
1/8 cup chocolate chips

Stir together brownie mix, water, and applesauce in the mug. Microwave for 1 minute. Sprinkle chocolate chips on top and microwave 1 minute more. Remove from microwave and cool for 10 minutes. Top with ice cream.

Sorry I don't have an artsy picture to accompany the recipe. Just close your eyes and picture a chocolate chip covered brownie in a mug . . . there you go! :)

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

The Clockwork Three


The Clockwork Three by Matthew J. Kirby

What a fantastic book! The story takes place in the 19th century in a large, gritty city, similar to New York. The three main characters, teens Hannah, Frederick, and Giuseppe, come from different backgrounds and each have a fascinating story to tell. Their various circumstances paint a true-to-life picture of the place and time.

The characters eventually meet and realize that they each desperately need something and can help each other. Their adventure together provides a fast-paced story that includes a green violin, an amazing automaton, and a mysterious treasure.

I like Giuseppe’s story best, and was interested to read that the author based his character off a true story of an Italian boy he read about in an 1873 newspaper. The “About the Author” page reads:

“Joseph had been taken from his home in Italy and brought to New York City as a slave to play music on the streets for money. One night, he escaped from his captor and fled to Central Park, where a kind old woman took care of him. Eventually Joseph’s story became well-known, and he went to court to testify against his padrone, which led to changes in the law to protect other boys like him. Joseph’s bravery and strength are what inspired Matthew to write The Clockwork Three, his first novel.”

Life for children was certainly different then. Many kids were exploited, treated harshly, and forced to grow up quickly. The laws did little to help and protect them. I like the historical context of this book because it teaches today’s kids how fortunate they are. My daughter flew through this book, and I was only halfway through when my teen son swiped it from me. But of course I'd fly to the moon to get him to read, so I willingly gave it up.

This novel is great for kids ages 10 or 11 to adult. I hope Kirby continues to deliver such wonderful stories!

Oops, it looks like he does have some other books out -- they should be fun to check out!

Monday, March 4, 2013

The Picture of Dorian Gray

The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde

Well, life intervened and I have neglected my little blog. We moved from Utah to gorgeous Northern California last month and have experienced all the challenges that accompany a big move with four kids. Intense schools and loads of paperwork and homework, flu and poison oak, and quirks in our new older home. But it's soo pretty! Trees, hills, trees, and hills.

A new friend, Melissa, loaned me The Picture of Dorian Gray. I knew little about Oscar Wilde, but the brief bio describes him as wild. This novel is supposedly somewhat autobiographical.

The book is very philosophical and a fascinating study of man's evil nature. When we first meet him, Dorian Gray is an untouched young man with a pure heart and movie-star handsome face.

He is a friend to Basil Hallward, a good-hearted painter who looks upon Dorian as his muse. Basil has just completed Dorian's portrait and it's a gorgeous replication of this stunning young man. That same day at Basil's home, Dorian makes the acquaintance of the worldly Lord Henry Wotton, much to Basil's chagrin. Lord Henry is a smooth, cynical gentleman who is without morals and stands for nothing. Dorian is intrigued by his light-hearted persona and smooth, philosophical words, and increasingly falls under his influence.

For example, as Lord Henry admires Dorian's portrait he comments on the boy's beauty but reflects that it will be fleeting; we all age and lose our youth, eventually becoming grotesque in our looks. His words startle young Dorian, who for the first time has recognized his beauty in the portrait, and he panics. He cries out a fervent wish that the portrait would age instead. In this moment, he sells his soul for eternal youth.

Under Lord Henry's worldly guidance and his own vanity, Dorian's life changes its course. He becomes increasingly wicked but always rationalizes his deeds. He hurts others to satisfy his insatiable appetites and buries himself in material possessions.

I love the trio of the three main characters and what they represent: Dorian ("natural man" with a tendency to do evil), Basil Hallward (the "creator" of his portrait and the role of his conscience), and Lord Henry Wotton (the subtle, cynical devil who lures him into temptation). And yet ultimately, Dorian makes his own decisions and must account for them. What a chilling and fascinating book!

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Reached


Reached by Ally Condie

Ugh. I finally “reached” the end! I really tried to like Reached, but it was laborious, like wading through a thick marsh. I’ve read and reviewed Matched and Crossed, the first novels in this trilogy; I liked them. But in this round Cassia, the smart heroine I used to admire, spent almost the whole 512 pages in a poetry-inflicted haze.

Plot: aah, I can’t. Okay, I'll try. The Rising (rebellion against the Society, or government) has taken hold. Cassia, Ky, and Xander join the Rising, helping to combat the Society’s plague. But soon a mutated form of the plague develops, and the three characters must help the Pilot (leader of the Rising) find a cure. That’s the gist, I think. And Xander loves Cassia and Cassia loves Ky.

Thursday, December 13, 2012

A Tree Grows in Brooklyn


A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith

I read this novel years ago in college and forgot about it until recently. Someone mentioned it to me and I decided to dig it out of the stacks of books on our living room floor. It’s funny, sad in bits, sometimes gritty, and incredibly honest and realistic. I love it.

A Tree Grows in Brooklyn was written in 1943 and take place in Brooklyn, NY during the early 1900s. Francie Nolan is a lonely young girl – poor, bright, and keenly aware of her surroundings. She feels dark and drab next to her golden, handsome younger brother Neeley, who takes after their father, Johnny Nolan. Johnny is a dreamer – a musician and alcoholic with a loving heart; he is Francie’s only real source of affection. The pretty mother, Katie, is practical by necessity and a bit sharp with Francie. She cleans houses to put food on the table and pay the rent, but it’s never enough.

The story flows beautifully as it meanders through Francie’s early life, sharing anecdotes of her childhood. Katie’s two sisters (also strong, pretty women married to weak men) play a large role in Francie’s upbringing and provide a support system for Katie and lots of comic relief for the reader.

There are two parts in the book that especially struck me. Eighteen-year-old uneducated Katie has just given birth to Francie, and is feeling dismayed at the realization that Johnny will not be dependable. She, Katie, will have to find a way to support her family and she is complaining to her mother about her bleak, physically challenging life ahead. She asks her mother how she can create a better world for her new daughter.

This old woman, an uneducated Austrian immigrant, teaches Katie that the key lies in reading and writing. She counsels Katie to read to her children each day a page from Shakespeare and a page from the Bible. (She herself can’t read.) She further advises Katie to teach her daughter about Santa Claus and fairies. Katie thinks this sounds ridiculous: “Why? When I, myself, do not believe?”

Because . . . the child must have a valuable thing which is called imagination. The child must have a secret world in which live things that never were. It is necessary that she believe. She must start out by believing in things not of this world. Then when the world becomes too ugly for living in, the child can reach back and live in her imagination . . . .

The child will grow up and find out things for herself. She will know that I lied. She will be disappointed.

That is what is called learning the truth. It is a good thing to learn the truth one’s self. To first believe with all your heart, and then not to believe, is good too. It fattens the emotions and makes them to stretch. When as a woman life and people disappoint her, she will have had practice in disappointment and it will not come so hard. In teaching your child, do not forget that suffering is good too. It makes a person rich in character.

I love that lesson on the importance of sharing stories and legends, and what a difference reading makes.

My other favorite part takes place right after Francie’s birth. Katie is sitting out on the front stoop with her sickly infant as neighbors walk by. They comment on Francie’s poor health and say it’d be better for all if she weren’t to survive.

Don’t say that, Katie held her baby tightly. It’s not better to die. Who wants to die? Everything struggles to live. Look at that tree growing up there out of that grating. It gets no sun, and water only when it rains. It’s growing out of sour earth. And it’s strong because its hard struggle to live is making it strong. My children will be strong that way.

There is much wisdom in this exceptional book. Not to give anything away, but Francie does rise above her surroundings and grows into a remarkable young woman. I like her character best.